I never thought I'd end up a single parent.
I was with both Sam and Bs father for about 13yrs or so and 'tho we never married I did take his surname. We just eventually outgrew each other. We have a good relationship and he's married to a women who I'm perfectly happy with to be a step mum to my sons. Almost immediately I met my (now ex) husband. We had a few good years. We were married within a year of our first meeting and our (very much planned) daughter Ivy was born six months after our wedding. Then the cheating started. I'm not here to slate him but there are only so many chances you can give someone. The final straw came when I caught him with a girl, who knew he was married and had a family but this didn't stop her continuing to sleep with him, and I threw him out for the final time.
And then there were four. Me, my boys and my 5yr old daughter. It's not been an easy ride. I was heartbroken in the beginning as I hadn't suspected anything and we were still having 'normal relations', the heartbreak turned into anger (for a very long time) and then the relief came. Relief knowing I was out of a toxic relationship. Relief knowing I really can do this on my own. My eldest son is in his final year at uni, my youngest son is starting uni this year and my daughter is a beautiful, confident, hilariously funny 9yr old. She's my best little friend and I know I am her favourite person in the world. I am so proud of all my babies. I've done a bloody good job if I say so myself.
It's mostly just Ivy and I at home these days (and our two dogs, both girls as we're a girly household now) and we have the best times together. We've been to Paris twice, Spain, Amsterdam, driven to the South of France twice, and driven to Western/ Northern France to camp. We've also camped in Wales and the Peak District. We go to see our favourite bands, watch DVDs all day in our PJs at the weekends, sing loudly in the car, Snapchat our faces off and as she has a double bed and I have a kingsize one, if we feel like it we bundle into one bed with both dogs and sleep there for the night.
Being a single mum to me is a bonus. Ivy goes to her dads once a fortnight and I miss her dreadfully, but I know after those two nights away she comes back excited to see me and we then get to enjoy each others company, just the two of us, for another two weeks.
So don't despair about single life. Embrace and run with it. Do things you never thought you'd do (seriously, I hate driving the 12 mile round trip to our nearest shops let alone 830 miles to the South of France on the wrong side of the road!). I have made so many wonderful memories with Ivy that she'll remember forever and hopefully tell her children how much fun she had growing up ♡
I was with both Sam and Bs father for about 13yrs or so and 'tho we never married I did take his surname. We just eventually outgrew each other. We have a good relationship and he's married to a women who I'm perfectly happy with to be a step mum to my sons. Almost immediately I met my (now ex) husband. We had a few good years. We were married within a year of our first meeting and our (very much planned) daughter Ivy was born six months after our wedding. Then the cheating started. I'm not here to slate him but there are only so many chances you can give someone. The final straw came when I caught him with a girl, who knew he was married and had a family but this didn't stop her continuing to sleep with him, and I threw him out for the final time.
And then there were four. Me, my boys and my 5yr old daughter. It's not been an easy ride. I was heartbroken in the beginning as I hadn't suspected anything and we were still having 'normal relations', the heartbreak turned into anger (for a very long time) and then the relief came. Relief knowing I was out of a toxic relationship. Relief knowing I really can do this on my own. My eldest son is in his final year at uni, my youngest son is starting uni this year and my daughter is a beautiful, confident, hilariously funny 9yr old. She's my best little friend and I know I am her favourite person in the world. I am so proud of all my babies. I've done a bloody good job if I say so myself.
It's mostly just Ivy and I at home these days (and our two dogs, both girls as we're a girly household now) and we have the best times together. We've been to Paris twice, Spain, Amsterdam, driven to the South of France twice, and driven to Western/ Northern France to camp. We've also camped in Wales and the Peak District. We go to see our favourite bands, watch DVDs all day in our PJs at the weekends, sing loudly in the car, Snapchat our faces off and as she has a double bed and I have a kingsize one, if we feel like it we bundle into one bed with both dogs and sleep there for the night.
Being a single mum to me is a bonus. Ivy goes to her dads once a fortnight and I miss her dreadfully, but I know after those two nights away she comes back excited to see me and we then get to enjoy each others company, just the two of us, for another two weeks.
So don't despair about single life. Embrace and run with it. Do things you never thought you'd do (seriously, I hate driving the 12 mile round trip to our nearest shops let alone 830 miles to the South of France on the wrong side of the road!). I have made so many wonderful memories with Ivy that she'll remember forever and hopefully tell her children how much fun she had growing up ♡
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